Submit your Questions & Stories for Dear Dudes!! * Sherilynn Macale (HeyCheri)

Submit your Questions & Stories for Dear Dudes!!

July 12, 2010 in Guest Blogs

dear dudes questions us to you Submit your Questions & Stories for Dear Dudes!! * heycheri sherilynn macale

If you had a chance to interview the Dudes of the world, what questions would you ask, and what stories would you want feedback from them on?

No limits. No boundaries. And no bullshit, please.
Let’s try to keep this one as fun as possible, Ladies!! ;)

Answer by leaving a comment below!
Ex. “Dear Dudes, Why are you always scratching your crotch and adjusting your balls? We at least excuse ourselves to the restroom. Does it make you feel cool or something?” Or, “Dear Dudes, why do you always get butthurt over dumb shit? You call yourself a man?”

… Or y’know, something not as blatantly passive-aggressive.
Ex. “Dear Dudes, what do you prefer more? T&A? Or a tight pu–!!” — (AHEM) JUST KIDDING. Or, “Dear Dudes, This one time at band camp…” Or, “Dear Dudes, Why is it okay for boys to fart in public??”

Etc, etc.
You get it.

Oh, and by the way? You’ll be helping out my next Guest Bloggers with your feedback. ;) So don’t be surprised if we use your questions for their post (which should be coming up soon)!! Brownie Points if you’ve been paying attention and already know who this trio of dudes is! And if it turns out to be a hit, “Dear Dudes” will be a regular thing!

boys, boys, boys,
XOXO Cheri XOXO

PS!! Don’t forget that you can send in more than one question & story! :) So if you’ve got tons?! Now is the time to send them all in by the truckload!

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lvlech

@Dear dudes,

What do guys talk about when they’re together. (I’ve asked my guy friends this a couple times, but I’m not sure how accurate their answers were since they’re strange people). Do you guys talk about deep topics/gossip/talk about girls and stuff, or do you follow the all sports/videogames/super manly stereotype?

Super Manly Stereotype, see the old spice man? Yea, that’s basically what we do. When we talk about women, we brag, gossip not so much, deep topics are usually skimmed over.

@Dear dudes,

Do you really think high heels are sexy? Or are they just shoes for you? What is your real opinion on girls getting their hair, make-up, and/or nails done?

We really don’t care what you wear, make it work, and we like it.

@another question.

why do some guys get all obnoxious in public when hitting on a girl? (for example, saying things like, “mmm girl you need to give me your number” or even the semi-lewd or lewd passing-by-comments) I don’t know any girls who would respond to things like that.

Guys are are afraid of two things, women and rejection, approaching girls is hard for a ton of guys and stupid things break the ice. That, or he’s an idiot.

@Dear dudes,
How do guys find the courage to go up to girls? Sometimes, I feel like turning the tables and giving a try at going up to/talking to a guy, but I can never find the courage. How do guys do this all the time?

It’s hard, but once the ice is broken (you manage to work yourself up to walk up to the girl and say something) its cake. The biggest thing to remember is that you may ask out 100 girls, but even then, you might only get one number, so take rejection lightly.

@Cheri : Jobs
It’s a number of things:
1) We need it to feel secure, having money means we can live comfortably, and can do so in unexpected life turbulence. Having a job, a budget, and money saved is safety, and less stress.
2) We need it to pick up chicks, brah.

@Dear dudes,
what’s going on with your head? how come girls are soooo obsessed with you dudes but guys are not as obsessed of girls as us?

Troll? We obsess, we also have the ability to turn off our obsession, which is probably the biggest difference between the two sexes.

@Cheri : Underwear

Three days, camping in Wisconson, longest shower break, but no more than a day on the underwear.

@Cheri : Activity Sharing with Mate

Somewhat, it calls on the situation. Personally, I want to keep most of my activities separate from hers, but I don’t mind sharing.

@Why do you tell a girl that you like them when you actually don’t? Stop leading us on. Oh, and also, what do you find the most attractive in a girl?

We want to have sex with you. Also, most attractive varies from man to man, I’m an ass guy.

@Do you like responding with one word answers or are you just doing to be a complete dickhead?

Yes.

@ Nora : Compliments

Men use compliments sparingly, not because they don’t like you, it’s because you find us more interesting when we don’t compliment you. It’s confusing, but trust me, would you rather hear “you’re amazing” every single hour, or once when it really matters? Also, if you want to move out of the friend zone you have to make the first move, he knows he’s trapped in the zone and can’t get out.

@If I am just ‘talking to’ or ‘dating’ a guy, am I obligated to tell him about other guys that I am ‘talking to’? Especially since I don’t know if he is ‘talking to’ anyone else?

God, women are so subliminal. We don’t care, after second date (if it continues after) that’s when you have to omit other men.

@So you’re 18 and dating a 21 year old (in my case) and you’ve been dating for almost a year, and the guy sometimes (jokingly?) asks ‘will you marry me?’, what does that mean?

It means “I would marry you if I could, but I still have make my life solid before we could make it solid.”

@Am I just being a girl and assuming things?

I’m assuming you’re not dating, so yes. Guys don’t do the girl friends thing unless they want to hookup with you or your girlfriends.

@dear dudes, how do you know when youre in love????

When we can’t lock you out of our heads to concentrate on manly things (like shaving our beards)

@what makes a girl stand out to you? when u meet a girl for the first time, what makes her stand out among the rest of the girls you may have been talking to? what makes a girl special to you??? and if you deem someone as special, do you ever forget them or let them go??

A guy gets interested in a girl, they pursue them. Most often, it’s triggered through appearance, and no, it’s what you think it is. We approach them and try to move to dating and forward. A special girl is one that changes your life, usually for the better, and its hard to forget these kinds of girls.

@ Cheri : This is healthy, right??

Yes, it is. You’re young, you have a lot of parties to crash, drugs to do. It’s especially healthy when you use guys.

@Why do you dudes hate shopping with a girl or hate shopping at all?

Shopping is fine, women just make the experience dreadful. Men only go to stores to buy things they know they want, therefore they enter a store with a plan, making the trip short and painless. Fifteen minutes tops is my experience. Women drag the encounter out, trying on everything in a store, wasting valuable time that could be spent on a multitude of things.

@do you think its possible to turn a fuck buddy relationship to something more?

Yes, but he doesn’t want that, sever it already, he’s just using you.

@what makeup do guys like on girls? like attractive?

I’m a huge fan of no makeup. It’s fine if you need self-esteem security when you’re going out in public. However most guys will like it if you just do something natural looking, nothing over the top, you look scarier wearing a ton of makeup (high maintenance)
lvlech

@ Dear dudes, why do you wear your pants so ridiculously low so that we can see your underwear? Do you think that’s honestly cool?

Why do women wear low rise jeans? It’s fashion. I don’t personally wear baggy pants.

@ Dear Dudesss,
Why does it seem alright for you guys to cheat and yet when we do it’s like we’re sluts and whores? I mean doesn’t it hurt when you find out when we cheat on you?

A good key opens a lot of locks, a poor lock gets opened by many keys, get it? If we act like we care, we become sissies that you are no longer interested in.

@Dear Dudes, do you guys really care about boob size?

We really don’t, it’s more of a female insecurity thing (no girl ever likes themselves). Guys really don’t care.

@Susanne Tiperbooth

Yes, even if you are a troll.

@Do guys like skinny girls or curvy girls better?
I’ve never been skinny, but I’ve never been overweight. I do carry more weight on my ass and chest. I get compliments about my “womanly” figure, but I feel like EVERYONE is obsessed with thin girls…what do you guys think?

We like everything, every guy is different and every one of our tastes is unique. You just think we’re obsessed with thin girls because that’s all you see on advertisements. Personally, I like figured women.

@Do guys think it’s weird that a girl likes to give more than receive?

Nope, like i said before, every guy is different, but guys receiving.

@I think something’s wrong with me. When I start to really like a guy, I get all excited about dating him. But when we finally start going out I just lose interest!! But then I don’t want to break up with him because when I do, I miss him again and want to be with him again!! What do I do? And how do I solve this?

This happens to everybody just out of a relationship. You get lonely so you remember the most recent relationship you’ve had and all of the good parts of it. You just have to remember why you broke up with him in the first place and it’ll help.

@Alice : The nudity thing.

When guys go to a gym, they care about hiding their stuff, but after a while they just stop caring and let it go. It’s just a pain to cover yourself up in a towel, take off your shorts and undies under the towel, and put new ones on. Let it go, nobody cares. As for the specific guy, he’s just trying to hide the fact that he has a small member, nobody goes by weight.

@ Bullied : The blog thing.

Confront them, it’s the fastest way to get rid of bullies, they’re just cowards trying to make themselves feel better.

@1. What type of things would a girl need to do that would make you feel comfortable approaching her, flirting with her, and generally making conversation with her?
2. What do guys notice about the outfit a girl is wearing, and what type of things about her outfit are they oblivious to or don’t give two shits about?

1. Depending on the situation and environment, for a guy to approach you, they have to have a strong reason why. Guys are chickens most of the time, but things that help are : you give him a signal (wink, smile) you are approachable (body language) you seem down to earth (you aren’t wearing a prom dress to grocery shopping)
2. We really don’t care about a lot of things, only excess jewelry or makeup can be a huge turnoff. Find what makes you look good, and we’ll notice you.

@I know guys think confidence is sexy but I just don’t know how to be confident in such ugly, scarred skin because I know guys like silky sexy smooth skin on girls, right?

It’s unfortunate, but it can be a hindrance to your situation, you just have to learn to live with it and be confident about it. I could care less about it, but I’m kewl like that. My advice, guys who care that much are dicks anyways.

@y do you get so butthurt when you tell us to move on and we actually do???? Weren’t u the one who told us to? And if u don’t actually want us to move on, then why would u say that? y don’t u ever say what u mean????

Troll? This sounds like something a girl would do (and has done to me)

@Dear Dudes,
why do you suddenly get clingy and weird after you break up with people? Do you regret it? Are you just being nice?What’s up with that?

Guys are just as sensitive to loneliness and break-ups as girls are, even if they break it off themselves. Yes, we make decisions we regret, and yes, we still think about you after we break up with you.

@Dear Dudes,

Why are a lot of you suddenly turning into girls? Are you guys insecure with yourselves? Are some of you just desperate enough that they’ll do anything? It’s a huge turn off for me when a guy acts like the girl in the relationship, but for some reason, a lot of guys are like that these days. Am I just not looking in the right places or are guys just becoming more sensitive?

Being a manly man is frowned upon, is not taught well, and the lack of a strong father figure can all assist with the existence of a lot of sensitive guys. Guys are being taught two kinds of things concerning women through mainstream media, treat your girl like an object, or don’t treat a girl like an object. Being a man while still treating a woman with respect is rare. You’re probably finding a lot of “nice guys” also known as pansies or Omega males, they may seem sweet and nice, but you’re going to have girley men because of it. Keep looking, you’ll find a guy like me.

Also: Whew.
Nora

Thank you!!!! =)
http://www.heycheri.com/ Cheri

dear dudes,
do guys get scared off by women who are blunt/confident/independent?? like, women who have their own thing going on??
Nora

Dear Dudes…

where do you like a girl’s hands while making out? short of groping….
lvlech

@dear dudes,
do guys get scared off by women who are blunt/confident/independent?? like, women who have their own thing going on??

Blunt, confident, and independent are three different things. Being blunt will scare away a guy, telling him that joke is bad, or that his hair is off during the first date is like a big red sign saying no. Confident, no, we like girls who have high self-esteem, less complaining from you and less reassuring needed from us. Independent, no, most guys have no problem with a woman trying to reach her own goals or dreams.

@where do you like a girl’s hands while making out? short of groping….

Well, you took the fun out of it. If I had to put an order to it, groping, ass, face, arms, around waist, hands. Though, I really don’t care(beyond groping) when I’m in the middle of a kiss.
Nora

Thank you for your great answer =)
Liese

Dear dudes,
Why do you think, that you can pee everywhere, just because you have a dick?!

and
Why do so many of you like to cuddle after sex? I hate it and I kinda expect, that guys hate it to, because they’re fucking guys. Get a cigarette and go away, dude :D